It all comes down to wants and needs. Is this something I merely want for “x” reason? Or do I need this to accomplish a goal in my life? Do I need the stress the decisions I make will cause me? No, but I need to tolerate it temporarily to accomplish a goal. Do I want a relationship at this point in my life? Or do I/we need it to progress to the next stage in life? It’s all a question of compromise and getting to a point where “yes” suffices any basic emotional, physical, or psychological need.